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Open Discussion: Men That Beg For The Panties And Are Okay With It
Last modified on 2011-07-18 20:58:22 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
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If your following me on Twitter you know that last night I was ranting about guys that don’t know how to control themselves around women that don’t want to give it up right away, and that if they was to simply tell the truth, and be up front about things they would get the panties a lot faster. So since my Twitter buddies enjoyed it so much I thought I would post it on here and have yall tell me what you think. ENJOY
When will men realize that women get more turned on with stimulating conversation then u rubbing on our titties and asking for sex. Like how the f**k is that shit a damn turn on, what are u still in high school??? I’ma need you to peep game, and stimulate my brain. Whatever the case is, as soon and I realize you cant control yourself like a big boy should be able to, I cant f**k with u for a little bit. If you want to take me to a movie, or out to eat. COOL but, anything like chillin at your house or my house is all kinds of out of the question, cause you don’t know how to act.
Fellas, honestly. If you hit up a girl and you just want to f**k… BE HONEST! You will get the panties a lot faster that way because she will respect you more for it as long as you don’t come at her all crazy, ALSO if she’s not down, you will be able to save on lotion for the night because you wouldn’t have gotten blue balls since your hyper a** don’t know how to control yourself and thought that she would be down to fuck.. I’m sorry but that’s a hot mess.
If we are chillin and just cuddling don’t f**ken ask me if I want to have sex because CLEARLY if I wanted to my hand would be down your pants and you wouldn’t have to be trying to guide my hand down there to throw hints… never the less WHY WOULD U WANT TO HAVE TO DO THAT?? Why would you want to have to MAKE a girl get horny or CONVINCE her to want to have sex with you.. its like your begging.. JUST F**KEN SAD! Don’t no women want a man that’s that damn eager to where its as if he’s begging for sex “baby please just this one time” LIKE HOW DO YOU SOUND? DESPERATE! that’s how you sound and a hot mess at that. All I’m saying is stop begging for the pussy and just WAIT, hell she gone want to give it to u sooner if you chill the f**k out.
And don’t f**ken get me started on mofos that try to make you feel bad about not wanting sex, because that’s straight up bafoonish! Guys are forever talking about HOE THIS and HOE THAT but the moment a girl wana keep her legs closed you got a damn issue… ummm about that I’ma need yall to make up your damn minds because either you want a easy b**ch are you want a bitch that you have to work for who hasn’t been with all your homies and some. Like even if you just wana f**k, wouldn’t you want to just f**k a chick that you know isn’t ran threw??? Hell if I was a guy I wouldn’t want no ran threw ass pussy…THATS NASTY!
The point of my rant is, just because a girl doesn’t want to f**k on the first night it doesn’t mean never unless she says “I will never have sex with you we are just friends” it just means not right now and when it happens you both should automatically want it.
I’m going to end this post with a poem that I wrote called ‘Mental Orgasm’ I don’t care what anyone says, its just something sexy about a man that can turn you on with his words and keep me engaged in conversation that makes me think one more levels then just one:
Drive me crazy with laughter of pure joy, and warm conversation. Dive deep into my g-spot and make me wet when you touch my finger tips. Fulfill my deepest fantasy as you fill my body with words of “I only wana be with you”. Make my body sticky with simple efforts of commitment. Give me passionate convulsions when you tell me “I love you”. Keep me weak at the knees by making it so I’m never lonely. Seduce me with essence of your mind and never your body. Take me to a place of no return when we embrace and then make my body scream with lust when you stimulate my brain. Keep me coming back for more with your wisdom that makes my body tingle and my mind never dwindle. While you keep loving me up and down with the simplicity of you being you.” [-by NayBesa]
Anywho’s ladies and gents please weigh in on this topic. Why do you think some men want to beg for it. Because personally I be DAMNED if I’m begging a man to lay on top of me. I don’t think I could live with myself after.
Supermodel Jessica White Is Celibate + Women Dont Like Men That Give It Up Fast
Last modified on 2011-07-06 18:41:55 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Bossip.com reached out to supermodel Jessica White for an interview where they talked about what she likes to do, her 18 tattoos, dating, and her choice of being celibate until she is married. Check out the video below:
You know watching this reminds me of the Rihanna and Drake showing PDA post I did a couple days ago because I just know it has to be annoying when you cant even go out for a drink with a childhood friend without people thinking that you and this person are going to have sex when you get back home. I will never understand why people forever jump to that conclusion.
As for Jessica White saying that she is going to be celibate until marriage, I say GO FOR IT. Some might think she cant do it, but if she keeps her self busy enough it wont be that damn hard. Never the less sex is extremely over rated when it comes to things that you “have” to do in order to make a relationship work, or when your trying to get to know someone. When it comes down to it, you cant really get to know someone in the same way that you would if you had waited to have sex. Now I’m not saying that you have to wait till marriage, but waiting a month at least is a good start. I have yet to meet a guy, not make him wait, and still have the energy to want to get to know everything about them. Because just like men….If I get it too damn soon I dont really want to be with you anymore. Why??? because thats telling me that you couldnt wait, you wasnt interested in me enough to wait, and that clearly you dont want a relationship with me. And to be honest thats fine. If you feel that way that’s just fine, however you wont have to worry about me being that chick who blows up your phone and gets attached after sex, because 7 out of 10 I keep it pushin or will put you on a back burner simply because as of now I’m looking for more.
What do you ladies and gents think of this???? Do you think that waiting till marriage will get you anywhere??? And what do you think of women that dont like men that give it up too fast??? Is there a double standard for it OR is it a “it is what it is” type of situation????
Are You Looking For “Love” Or Just “Validation”???
Last modified on 2011-06-14 13:16:06 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
So I’m supposed to be doing my homework since I have finals tomorrow however while taking a smoke brake to relax and clear my head, I ended up filling up my head with thoughts and reasons for why I used to settle for all the wrong men back in 2010, and why this year things seem a little different. When I was checking my blog stats for naybesa.com I saw a few people had been reading a diary entry I did called “When Will My Time Come” and I remembered this was a post that really had my mind going everywhere while writing it so I thought I would take a seconded and read it. In doing so I realized that at that point in my life, the reason why I was so fed, up and the reason why I kept settling and finding the wrong men wasn’t because my twat stank, or because I just was a hot mess, it was because I was looking for validation and not love. And lets be real, those are two completely different things.
When your looking for validation, you will take anything that comes your way that pretty much just seems good to you at the moment, but you wont think about the long run, even if that means trying to turn a drug dealer into someone that will get a regular 9-5 job, knowing good and well that’s not going to happen. I must have dating so many guys from 2008-2010, I cant even name them all however I can tell you one thing that kept me linked in with these men and that’s the validation that they all gave me to make me feel like I was still a women. To make me feel as if I was needed…. to make me feel as if I was wanted. All I wanted to feel was loved. Not to be in love but to feel loved. There’s something about knowing that someone needs you, and that you make them feel better when they see you that just makes you say “well even thought he’s not the man I will marry, he’s boosting my confidence a little right now so I think I will deal with him until I find something better so I don’t have to feel alone all the time” and lets be real, that’s in no damn way healthy for a man, or a women. If anything you’re losing your self worth and putting in the hands of someone else because the minute they are done with you what are you going to do. Not a damn thing but sit in your room all day and feel like you’re going to be alone forever.
I feel that if women can come to the realization that maybe, just MAYBE the reason they aren’t finding the right man isn’t because they are looking for love but are truly just looking for someone to tell them, they look good, smell good, or “baby I really just need to be with you right now” weeding out these crappy options will go a whole lot smoother because your not going to just go for what looks good, but your going to go for that connection, that vibe, that you know this could be the one feeling.
I remember a time when even if I didn’t want to have sex with guys I would do it just because I felt bad that they was mad horny and I felt it was my duty to fix that…. Yea I know it sounds crazy but it is what it is. And now that I think about it, the reason why I felt that way wasn’t because I felt bad, it was because it was a different type of validation that I was looking for. It was a validation of feeling needed at that moment and time. And for some damn reason I thought if I do this for him then maybe he will care a little bit more about me, and that maybe he will see that I really do like him, and maybe he will want to be around me even more. And boy was I wrong. However it took me a while to realize that because I was looking for validation and not love. I was looking for someone to fill up the part of me that was still hurting from my break up in 2008 with the one and only guy I ever loved. Which I now realize was a big mistake. The only thing I did was bring down my own value because I was judging it on whether or not I had a man that wanted to be with me, whether it be physically or mentally. I remember last summer when I was celibate for a good 3-4 months and I was just peachy with it. I was happy that for once I wasn’t giving in. For once I was standing my own ground of me wanting to wait until I found that guy that truly wanted to be with me. However all that happiness went smooth down the drain after one night with a guy that could give two pickles about me wanting to wait for a relationship. I felt just plain dirty! If that wasn’t a wake up call for me I don’t think I know what was. The mire thought of being with a guy that didn’t even care if I didn’t want sex at the moment, and me doing it anyways just to make him happy literally made me sick to my stomach… I might have thrown up once I got home, I cant remember but I think that I did.
The moral of this post is, if your looking for love, make sure that your truly looking for love and not just for someone else to validate how amazing you are. Everyone is amazing in their own way and before you go looking for someone else to tell you that, you better know it your damn self so that if it doesn’t work out you wont be asking your self things like, what have I done, and how can I fix this knowing good and well that you did all you could. If you know your own worth, ya you might be a little ass hurt for losing this person, however in the end you will know its their loss and not yours. Lets be real if you don’t even know that your special, why should they??? Someone else shouldn’t have to tell you all the amazing things about you. Someone else shouldn’t have to give you your self worth. These are things you should already know. That way no one can ever take them away from you. With that being said… are you looking for Love…. or just plain Validation??? Because Janay Naybesa wants love, and can validate her damn self.
8 Early Dating Mistakes That Women Make
Last modified on 2011-06-30 20:23:05 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
every once in a while i like to post up some dating tips now i know things are always easier said then done [trust cause i be trying to take my own advice] however that doesnt mean these subjects dont need to be addressed. 8 Early Dating Mistakes That Women Make is my two cents from the article posted on Yeah She Said It. pretty much this is all the dumn mistakes that me make before the relationship has even been established. i mean really sometimes its our own fault that these guys think that we are the drama queens that deep down we truly are because she give them too damn much too damn soon. anywho feel free to post in your two cent in the end, with that said get your pens and paper:
1. Talking About Past Relationships
lets be real ladies you be damned if he was always comparing you to the last chick or letting you know that the things your doing is the reason why he rolled out on his last girl, so why do the same to him. i always feel that the past is the past there’s no reason to be telling him every single dreadful moment of why your last relationship didnt work until it ruinous the mood. dont get me wrong if you happen to be in a very vulnerable point in your life fine let him know that but their are other ways of saying that then straight up dropping exs names and telling him how you caught them holding hands at the mall together. thats a bit much.
2. Expecting Too Much Too Soon
please dont be one of those women that right off the bat expect for your man to be doing anything and everything for you as if you’ve been dating for 6months already. at this stage the most that your should expect is dinner and a movie until further notice. dont be dropping on them that your a queen and you need to be treated with this and that respect because at this point in the game if you have to brake that down to him oh so soon then why would you want to be with him anyways… im just saying.3. Expecting A Relationship After Sex
goodness i have yet to figure out why us ladies cant see when sex is just sex and when sex is the beginning of the relationship. for starters if you want to be in a relationship with this guy i have no clue why your opening your legs so soon to where your even having to ask if your in a relationship or not. im not saying he wont talk to you ever again in life after he’s done however sex is good for clouding a guys judgment on whether or not he wants to take things to another level. ladies we have to realize when to and when not to have sex when it comes to guys that we truly want to make a future with. it seems like when things are moving so quickly we forget that after the sex is over we want to cuddle and be all kissy face and what not simply because we are feeling a certain bond. however i dont know how much of a damn b0nd that you have simply a few months into getting to know each other. simply remember sex is not the signature on the dotted line for a relationship, its you making a deal for more and more sex in the future.
4. Establishing Yourself As A Doormat
something that women do in the beginning of the relationship that never last too long is letting the guy run all over them, and never telling a guy no. the biggest thing that we are good at doing is letting them play the pop up game at our house and just rollin with it. now dont get me wrong at times this is okay and it can seem cute, however when it comes down to you already having plans for a girls night out, or you getting ready to go to sleep early because u gotta be at work before the sun even wakes up but to go throw on some pants and go downstairs anyways. now the issue with this is that sooner or later your going to get sick of it and he’s going to get used to it until one day you rip him a new one for doing this and him simple response is going to be you didnt have an issue with this before… then what chu gone do???
5. Establishing Yourself As A Drama Queen
i feel this is a nuff said issue, why are you already creating small drama before the relationship even starts. its showing him that if she’s like this now what is she going to be like a year from now, hell 6 months from now for that matter. dont be one of those women that let yourself go through his phone when he’s not looking see pictures of some other chick and then wana call him a dog and brake everything in his house when you two arent even official yet.
6. Expecting Him To Be Emotionally Available Because You Are
simply because you are that girl that feels the need to let him know just how you feel at every waking moment of the day dont expect for him to be doing the same. you may have come to the conclusion after one date that this is your groom to be but 9 out of 10 its going to take a little more time for his feelings to catch up to yours. sending him messages about how deep your feelings are for him too soon can make you look just plan crazy so make sure you time this right and dont pour it on too thick too damn soon
7. Telling Him What He Can And Can Not Do
after a certain amount of time of you two being in a relationship its okay to ask him to not kick it with his boys as much and ask him to not talk to his exes if it makes you feel uncomfortable because you know that she still has feeling for him. however this is definitely not the point to be letting him know that you like to wear the pants in the relationship. its going to make you look bossy, and as if he cant breath without your permission on whether or not it should come out his nose or mouth. the same would go for you if he was telling you that he didnt want for you to be going out with the girls and you just met him about a month or two ago, you be ready to go “there’s the door” on ol boy.
8. Having Your Girlfriends In Your Business
HELL THIS SHOULD BE NUMBER ONE!!! stop telling your girls everything that goes on drama wise in your relationships, and even what goes on in the bedroom. you dont want him telling his boys how you drop it like its hot in 7 different ways so why let your girls know every trick that he does. it makes no since for your friends to know so much about whats going on when their not around to where they might as well just be with you two at all times because if you get in an argument their going to know anyways. picking up the phone to say girl guess what he did this time, might seem like a good idea at the moment but depending on the sitution its not necessity. next thing you know your girls going to be telling you to get rid of your boo over something thats really not all that big of a deal. make sure that your able to think for yourself 75% of the time when it comes to dating because 7 out of 10 we know what to do however we just dont want to do it because its too painful. so we tell our girls to get the validation of us going down the right path. when it comes down to it your the only one that has to kiss, hug, sex, and spend time with this guy so in all reality unless he’s going upside your head on a daily it doesnt really matter what your friends have to say.
5 Things Men Want In Bed
Last modified on 2011-07-25 04:58:11 GMT. 4 comments. Top.
Over the last month we have talk about vag mythes, being celibate, and making a realistic list on what you want in a man and looking over what your last few men had and didnt have, but now we are going to talk about when these men want in bed. Lets be real ladies we all need to stop trippin and sometimes take control of the situation and stop just going with the damn flow. I mean really how would you feel if he just went with the flow all the times dont no one want a one noted sex life. So according to YeaSheSaidIt.com this is the top 5 things men want and ladies i suggest you take notes and get to it:
1. More Oral Sex Please
Apparently, a lot of men feel that we are not sucking enough penis. Who knew? (rolling my eyes) With that being said, if you are in a relationship with your honey give him some mind blowing head. Don’t wait till he asks for it, just simply take his hand and drop into position. You may even want to watch a couple of pornos and practice up on your skills. Is this one really a surprise ladies? Men always want more oral sex. No breakthroughs here.
2. Don’t Fear The Sperm
I was once guilty of this as well. Something about man ooze that used to gross me the hell out. The way it looked, tasted, smelled. I did not want it near my face, my body at all. In fact, I would rush to wash it off of whatever part of my body it landed on when the deed was done. Lucky for my current boyfriend, I got over it. Men like when you show no fear of their man love. They get a kick out your willingness to allow them to cum on your face etc.. My motto is you can get it anywhere just not in my hair. I’m just sayin….
3. Be More Active
Another complaint a lot of men have is that women are too submissive and lazy in bed. The whole, I’m trying to act like I don’t want it even though I know I do routine is played out to them. They want us to get on top and are sick of the missionary position. If you prefer the missionary position then find another way to be a more active during the sex. Try to move in motion with him. The benefit to this is that it might bring you some extra stimulation as well. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. The point is that sex is a two person (minimum) activity and they want to have sex with their woman not a bean bag.
4. Initiate The Sex
Men also dig when we initiate the sex. This is why sometimes I will just push my boyfreind in a corner and take the s**t from him. Needless to say, he like my aggressiveness. Men want to feel wanted just like we do. Wouldn’t you think something was up if your man NEVER asked for sex or even tried to get in your panties? Sure you would. Also, despite how annoying it may be to us sometimes, we like when they try to put their bid in. It makes us feel like they are still attracted to us and crave our attention. He wants to feel the same way. So get on it chick… Literally.
5. Do Some Freaky Shit
Every once in a while you have to remind your man (notice I said YOUR MAN. Please don’t go porno style for some loser who you are not in a relationship with expecting this to be the ticket to get him to take you seriously or lock you down. You might be sadly disappointed) of the treasure he has in you and there is no place better he needs to be. In summation, do some freaky shit. This needs to be some real penis pleasing, orgasm splashing, s**t. It needs to be so awesome that it is almost considered a treat but it is more like a reminder. A reminder that yes, you are still a freak and still his freak.
Now to end this post I’m going to let Janet reiterate what was put up in 1-5 and i would like to know some of yalls thoughts on this subject
When Will My Time Come
Last modified on 2011-06-30 20:15:43 GMT. 1 comment. Top.
“my twat is on lock down and there’s a 7 letter combo to unlock it and that’s respect”
I think that once in a while its nice for you all the see what REALLY goes on in my head and for you all to know why i dont blog sometimes for long periods of time. Anywhos this is a entery from my personal online PUBLIC diary i say this all the time i have NOTHING to hide and this proves it.. Anywho’s some people are going to say whats the point of posting this on a gossip site, well the point is that this is still MY site therefore i will post whateva i want. Anywhos i wrote this last night and you never know ladies you might have some advice for me and men you might learn some do’s and donts of dating……..
I truly want to know when it will be my turn to find someone that doesn’t want to rush into a relationship and doesn’t want to rush into sex. Its like now a days if a gurl done give it up right away a guy is turned off and don’t want ish to do with her. But when she gives it up they still don’t talk her. In other works its clearly at a point where guys only want sex and good head. The sad thing is that now a days the ones u THINK will be different are the worst ones and the main ones that won’t pic up the phone when u call but got the nerve to be introducing u as wifey and “girlfriend”. What a waste of a damn title. I feel like this… Don’t give me a title show me my title. Don’t tell me I’m ur wify show me I’m ur wify. Like I don’t even want to hear u call me wify until u prove it with ur actions. Wat for??? All its doing is getting my hopes up which is probably the whole point in the first damn place.
I love when I tell guys I’m “celibate” and their like “why??” Or “girl plz” and then they be trying to ask u to stop within the next few days…. *raises hand* why the bunk am I going to stop keeping myself clean just cause UR horny. I may not want to not have sex cause I have needs just like EVERYONE else however I can wait. I won’t have sex with another guy that’s not worthy. I’m sorry but my ish is good and I know its good and from what I hear it taste good too so why would I just give it to any mofo. I’m sorry but I can’t and I won’t. How dare u tell me that if I would have come to ur house today we would have had sex. Ni**a have u lost ur damn mind?? The only ones having sex would have been u ur hand and the lotion u keep n ur damn bathroom. There’s a reason I don’t want guys at my house and I don’t want to be at theirs cause unlike me they can’t control their sexual urges which is a damn shame. Ur 20 and up but yet u can’t control ur own damn dick smh #fail + #immature moment for u. Get it together before u invite me to ur house. I’m just sick of it. What happened to the days when a girl would go kick it with a guy that she likes and even if she’s drunk and throwing herself at him he was able to control his feelings. I just don’t get it like why have guys just gotten more and more horny over the years. What do I have to do lose my ass and tittes to get a guy to just chill with me now a days??? I just don’t get it.
Never the less I’m happy that my twat is on lock down and there’s a 7 letter combo to unlock it and that’s respect. Don’t u disrespect me by telling me that I should stop being celibate next week just so UR needs can be fulfilled…. Uummm helllooo what about NayBesa’s needs????? Hhhmmmm what ever happened to the importance of making sure I’m happy. I KNOW that the tables didn’t flip that damn much just cause its 2010. I know I said it before but its beginning to seem more and more true that I’m going to have to move out of state to find my boo cause he doesn’t seem to be here in seattle. Uuhhkkk I’m just sick of the same old cycle I’m not going to say that guys change after they get what they want but they sure as hell show their true colors and I don’t have time for that. I just want someone that loves me for me. I feel like its impossible to find that but it can’t be because I know so many people that have. They say just be patient, but I have been for the last YEAR. They say don’t look, but after a year how can u not start to look. Sooner or later u are going to start to miss being held at night and having someone u can kick it with that loves u for more then what’s below the belt. Someone that took the time to get to know u n and out BEFORE having sex with u. I feel like its never going to happen for me but I guess I just need to stop trippin. Stop talking to these guys with no sense or self control and just wait… My hand hurts since I’m writing this on my BB [blackberry] I can’t write for as long. I have more to say but I can’t keep holding my phone the way I am. I will write more later…
*BESAS* ♡ ♍ ♡
Is A Tight Vag Really A Dry Vag???
Last modified on 2011-06-30 20:21:10 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
I would like to start off by staying this post is NOT for minors aka anyone under the age of 18 no matter how grown you really think you are 
. Now that we got that out the way its time to take the pearls off and get real for a sec. The other day i read an article on About.com that stated “Tight vaginas are usually just dry vaginas (which, incidentally, are more likely to get injured than a sufficientlylubricated vagina). It is a myth that sex stretches vaginas and makes them loose.” *raises hand* ummm excuse me but I may not be a Gynecologist however i DO know how my vagina works so we’re going to go off my personally experiences with my body and from what my friends and family have told me about theirs.
Personally Im not sure how someone could say “Tight vaginas are usually just dry vaginas” you might as well have said a tight vagina is really just a vag that needs to get in a fight with a bottle of lub. From my own personal experiences i can honestly say this can not be true [at least for me its not], i have a tight vag simply because i dont fu*k as much as the next bish. If i dont have sex for a month when i finally do it hurts and its NOT because i have a “dry vagina” its because i have what we call snap back. And in all reality most women do however the ones that normally dont are the ones that put themselves out there with so many different partners that their vag doest get the chance to snap back and stay on its A game or stay wet for that matter. Now like i said i only TRULY know about what goes on in between my own damn legs, lets be real your home girls can SAY that their not “loose” but you will never know unless to take to time to look your damn self. So with that said for those of you ladies that DO have the its looser then air problem there are some ways that this can be fixed…. well kind of. The most popular thing that women do is calles Kegels, in other words vag clinches and they work like this:
Ladies this is not something that will work over night and its also not the only method that there is to tighten vaginal muscles, heck some women just say bunk it and have surgery *shrug*. In all reality when it comes down to it you need to ask yourself what really is making you feel that your “loose” have you asked your man, or is this just some ish that you cooked up on your own that your “loose” because lets be real sometimes its not us and its these men and their baby Willies, therefore before you start with your kegels please do a little bit of reasearch.
Now back to the topic at hand, which is “Tight vaginas are usually just dry vaginas”. Like I said at the stop of this post for most women this comment is not true. I say this because even someone thats a virgin can tell the difference between if they are just “dry” or if their vag is trying to build a no Willies allowed wall that needs to get busted down. The only true way to keep a tight vag is to do what your mama told you to do and thats keep ya legs closed. The more partners that you have and the closer together that you have them, the more your going to stretch out like an old sweater. As a women you will never be able to go back to the way that you were when your body was still pure [a virgin] which is why its very important that we as women dont just open up to any Willie that comes our way. We as women need to start asking our selves is he really worth it or do i have a few batteries at home that can do a better job then he ever will. Because if we start thinking that way then we wont have comments like “Tight vaginas are usually just dry vaginas” that make women wonder am i tight or just a little dry aka loose because you will already know the answer. *puts pearls back on*
